1. Take Basic Self Defense training. Take a physical class with hands on experience and role plays.
2. Lessons in self defense are a must. Learn a martial art form to ward off any attack or assault. Or search the net for self defense tips.
3. You can never know too much when it comes to defending yourself or your family from someone who has bad intentions. Take the time to learn new ways to fend off an attacker and make sure you practice them regularly.
4. It is important to evaluate the goals and practical usefulness of a women’s self-defense program before signing up. Here are two tips:
a. Avoid martial arts studios unless you specifically wish to train in the traditional martial arts techniques and are prepared for a long-term commitment. Many women’s self-defense programs teach watered-down martial arts techniques that are complex and unrealistic under the stress of an actual attack;
b. The self-defense program should include simulated assaults, with a fully padded instructor in realistic rape and attack scenarios, to allow you to practice what you’ve learned.
5. If you have to defend yourself, aim for body parts on your attacker that are tender and cannot be strengthened.
6. The most sensitive spot in a male attacker's body is usually not his groin but his eyes. Putting pressure on his eyes will help you get away.
7. If you find yourself in a position where you have to defend yourself, you want to aim wherever it’s going to hurt the most regardless of the attacker’s strength and size. These areas are the eyes, nose, throat, groin and shin. You can’t toughen them up so it doesn’t matter if he’s twice your size; hit him in one of these spots and he’s going to feel some pain.
8. If someone tries to grab you, twist your arm up and down, and yell, "Stop!" and “Help”, blow a whistle, create racket, throw things around. Do anything you can to draw attention to yourself.
9. Whether it’s a personal self defense class or something a little more involved like a martial art or Krav Maga, take a class or attend a seminar by the local police force. They can show you a few moves to help you defend yourself, if necessary. When I took mine, our instructor emphasized - go for the soft spots. Use your fingers in their eyes, your hands/elbows/knees/feet in their crotch, your fingers in their throat - bite their noses and ears. Do anything you can to get a window of opportunity to run away.
10. That is your goal - get away and get help.
11. Prevention Is the Best Self-Defense.
12. Attackers, are looking for unsuspecting, vulnerable targets. So be sure to follow general safety tips like being aware of your surroundings, only walking and parking in well-lit areas, keeping your keys in hand as you approach your door or car, varying your route and times of travel, and other personal security precautions.
13. Apart from avoiding confrontation, if you can defuse a situation (talk someone down from physically assaulting you) or get away - by handing over your wallet/purse or whatever they want, do that. Hand over your money rather than fight. Nothing you own is worth more than your life or health.
14. If violence is unavoidable, however, to really defend yourself, you’ll want to know ahead of time how to fight back effectively - it’s possible against someone bigger or stronger than you.
Here are some basic self-defense techniques that can keep you safe:
15. Get Loud and Push Back.
16. As soon as the attacker touches you or it’s clear that escape isn’t possible, shout loudly (“BACK OFF!”) and push back at him or her. This does two things - it signals for help and it lets the attacker know you’re not an easy target. It may not dissuade all attackers, but getting loud will warn off those that were looking for easy prey.
17. Do not step in closer, say, to strike his nose with your hand, when you can reach his knee with a kick.
18. When striking a target on the upper half of the body you can use your hand. Effective strikes can be made with the outer edge of your hand in a knife hand position, a palm strike or knuckle blow for softer targets or a tightly curled fist.
19. Eyes: Gouging, poking, or scratching the attacker’s eyes with your fingers or knuckles would be effective, as you can imagine. Besides causing a lot of pain, this should also make your escape easier by at least temporarily interfering with his vision.
20. Nose: If the attacker is close in front of you, use the heel of your palm to strike up under his nose; throw the whole weight of your body into the move to cause the most pain and force him to loosen his grip on you. If he’s behind you, you can strike his nose (from the side or front) with your elbow. Either way, aim for the nasal bones.
21. Neck: The side of the neck is a bigger target, where both the carotid artery and jugular vein are located. You could possibly temporarily stun your attacker with a knife hand strike (all fingers held straight and tightly together, with thumb tucked and slightly bent at the knuckle) at the side of the neck. For even more injury, you could thrust your elbow into your assailant’s throat while pitching the weight of your body forward.
22. The knee is an ideal self-defense target, vulnerable from every angle and easily kicked without risk of your foot being grabbed. Kick the side of the knee to cause injury or partially incapacitate your attacker. Kicking the front of the knee may cause more injury but is less likely to result in imbalance.
23. How to Maximize Damage. Use what ever you can to make your defense stronger.
24. Use your elbows, knees, and head. Those are the parts of the body that are most sensitive when hit. The parts of the body used most effectively for inflicting damage are: your elbows, knees, and head (they’re your body’s bony built-in weapons).
25. Use everyday objects. Everyday objects you carry around with you or things in your environment can also be used to your advantage as weapons.
26. Hold a key or pen between your middle and ring finger while you’re walking home in the dark for more assurance.
27. Outdoors, you can toss some dirt or sand into your attacker’s eyes.
28. Women are often told to spray perfume or hairspray into an assailant’s eyes.
29. Leverage your weight. No matter your size, weight, or strength in relation to your opponent, you can defend yourself by strategically using your body and the simple law of physics. This is the principle behind martial arts systems like Jujitsu and other self-defense programs where a smaller person is able to defeat a larger one.
30. Striking is not about punching or kicking, it is about throwing your body weight strategically at someone. You don’t want to be standing there trading punches or kicks with an attacker. In a violent situation, it is critical to injure him using efficient, targeted moves. Basically, target those pressure points mentioned above, but leverage your weight to cause the most damage.
Moves for Getting Out of or Defending Against Common Holds or Attacks
31. Wrist Hold: When an attacker grabs your wrist, instead of pulling back to try to get out of the hold, squat down into a strong stance, then lean forward and bend your elbow towards him all the way towards his forearm until he can no longer hold onto your wrist.
32. Front and Back Choke Holds: Bend your elbow in to get out of the wrist hold, and then pushing upwards to break free. Swing one arm across to break the attacker’s hold then use your other arm’s elbow or hand in a knife strike position to hit the attacker.
33. Throw a shoe through a window to attract help, smash a window when people in the house will come out or call out.